Tuesday 3 July 2018

Marriage

Marriage
Is a connection of two souls and heart rather than two bodies. It's not the end it's the beginning instead. Beginning of everything. A new person, many new relationships and equal authority.
    Searching for a groom, talking about the girl, regarding the girl, asking about the guy, his qualification in short interviewing him for the bride is a ritual in our society. Once the girl steps into her 23rd year, people start talking about her marriage about her future regarding which she shouldn't have any objections. Even today in some places of our country, a girl is married off to a complete stranger without even her consent. To release a pledged house or mortgaged ornaments or to free her parents from the burden of debt. She is married to the son of the person who has lent them money. Has anyone thought what she goes through? When asked they say 'It's the tradition to send girls away at any age no matter what.' or 'लड़की पराया धन होती है'
      Age is just a number and marriage is just a legal name that binds two people without which the world outside calls it illicit and by chance, if she conceives without marrying then the child which is born suffers the most to the core. Inspite of having a name the child is called illicit. Isn't it beautiful how the same child, if born after marriage gets a proper name as well as a good house and before marriage is named as a mistake? Babies are the most beautiful creation of Almighty after woman. She's blessed with the strength to carry another life within her for 9 months and then bring it this world. They're never a mistake no matter when they're born.
      Marriage is just a name that says the couple are legally binded to one another. It's as if without getting married if two people stay together, it's a crime.
Is it that necessary to give a relationship a name so that two people can survive in the society?
Is it that important for a girl to have a mangalsutra around her neck which says she's married and belongs to someone else? Why is that inspite of having a mangalsutra she's being teased or harassed or worst cases even raped?
At times a question lingers in my mind is this all a girl is born? Just to educate her (which in many cases isn't happening) and then marry her off so that she can have kids?
Is this all a girls' life?