Character

How do you judge a girl's character? Based on what she wears? On the basis of her attire? Based on her friends list? On the basis of how many boys she has on her friends list? First of all who are you to judge her character? Never judge a girl's character based on all this. These are all materialistic things which fade away but her soul, her heart and her thinking still remains the same. Just because her friends list has many boys than girls, it doesn't mean she is characterless it simply means that she trusts her boy friends more than girl friends. It's a new trend these days of judging a girl by the number of boy friends she has. Girls aren't mere toys or rather puppets in your hands. The society outside needs to understand that like every other person even a girl is a human being; she is not just a daughter or sister or friend or wife or mother. Like everyone she too has rights to live her life how she wants. A single question on her character either breaks her or makes her what she actually isn't. For every person, his/her character is very important. The day you question her purity, you lose her. She too can have a past or may be more than one but if she is with you, trust me she will be loyal. Boys can have many ex girlfriends but a girl isn't supposed to have a single guy until she finds the right one. Isn't it great? C'mon until she has a wrong relationship how will she find the right one? A boy is never questioned based on him being a virgin but a girl is always answerable to such questions. Her chastity is always questioned. Why? Simple just coz she is a 'GIRL'. I wonder why a girl has many rules, disciplines, principles, regulations to follow? Don't boys need to follow them as well? Why always a girl should step back when it comes to anything related to her self respect? Just because a girl is soft spoken, kind hearted, generous people take her for granted. A girl is anything and everything but she isn't a puppet or a toy to play with. A girl and boy are alone in a room that doesn't mean something is going on in between them. There are 'N' number of chances that they share a bond about which you have no idea. "Trust" is what every girl yearns for. She loves it when she gets in full rather than the belief that she receives in bits and pieces. You trust her completely, she will believe you. A single lie to her will make her question every truth of yours. When she lacks trust, she simply walks away without a word, without a goodbye, without warning and later you are left with her memories only.

वो

उसके सम्मान की बातें सभी करते है
मगर इज़्ज़त कोई करता नहीं

उसकी गरिमा को ठेस पहुँचने पर गुस्सा सब को आता है
मगर फ़र्क किसी को पड़ता नहीं

जब हुआ द्रौपदी का अपमान भारी सभा में,
पांडव विवश थे और आज व्यवस्थाएं विवश है

जब उसके जिस्म को चीरते है,
लोग आवाज़ उठाते है,
रैली करते है,
फिर भूल जाते है

अत्याचार वो सहती है,
ताने उसको सौगात में मिलते है,
तोहफ़ा उसको बेइज़्ज़ती का दिया जाता है
इल्ज़ाम लगाया जाता है उस पर,
सब सिर्फ़ बोलते है,
बातें करते है थोड़े दिनों बाद भूल जाते है
मगर उसका क्या?
वो किसको दोष दे?
किसको ज़िम्मेदार ठहराए?
किसके सामने भीख माँगे शांती का?
आख़िर क्यों कठोर हो जाता है दिल सबका जब बात इंसाफ की लड़ाई की आती है?

है कोई जवाब??।

ಮನುಷ್ಯರೇ ನಾವು

ಹಿಯಾಳಿಸುವರು ನಮ್ಮನ್ನು ಜನ
ಸಮಾಜ ಕೀಲುನೋಟದಲ್ಲಿ ನೋಡುವುದು ನಮ್ಮನ್ನ
'ಹಿಜಡ', 'ಚಕ್ಕಾ', 'ಶಿಖಂಡಿ' ಇನ್ನು ನೂರಾರು ಹೆಸರಿವೆ ನಮಗೆ
ನಾವು ಮನುಷ್ಯರೇ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಹಾಗೆ

ಕೆಲವೊಮ್ಮೆ ಬೈದು ಕಳಿಸಿದರೆ ಇನ್ನೊಮ್ಮೆ ಹೊಡೆಯಲು ಬರುವರು
ನಾವು ಆಚೆ ಗಂಡು ಅಲ್ಲ ಈಚೀ ಹೆಣ್ಣು ಅಲ್ಲ, ನಿಜ ಆದರೆ ಮನುಷ್ಯರೆ
ಹಣಕ್ಕೆ ಕೈ ಚಾಚಿದರೆ, ಅಪಶಬ್ದ ಹೇಳುವರು
ಊಟಕ್ಕೆ ಕೇಳಿದರೆ, ಬೈಗಳದಿಂದ ಹೊಟ್ಟೆ ತುಂಬಿಸುವರು

ಮಾನವ ನೀನಾದರೆ ನಾನು ಮನವನೆ
ಹೃದಯ ನನ್ನಲೂ ಇದೆ ನಿನ್ನ ಹಾಗೆ
ಮೊದಲು, ತುಂಬ ಅಳುತ್ತಿದ್ದೆ ನಾನು
ಈಗ ಅಭ್ಯಾಸವಾಗಿದೆ ನನಗೆ

ಪುಟ್ಟ ಮಗುವಿಗೆ ಆಶೀರ್ವಾದ ನೀಡಲು ನಾನು ಬೇಕು, ಒಳ್ಳೆ ಕೆಲಸಕ್ಕೆ ಹೋಗುವಾಗ ಸಿಕ್ಕಿದರೆ ನಿಂತು, ಹಣ ಕೊಟ್ಟು ಹಿಗುತ್ತಾರೆ
ನಾನೇ ಬಂದರೆ, 'ಚಿ', 'ತು' ಎಂದು ಉಗಿದು ಕಳಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ

ಎನೋಪ ದೇವರ ಲೀಲೆ ಅವನಿಗೆ ಗೊತ್ತು
ಏನೇ ಆಗಲಿ, ನಮಗೆ ಗೌರವ ಕೊಡಲಿ ಬಿಡಲಿ,
ನಮ್ಮನ್ನು ಒಪ್ಪಲಿ ಒಪ್ಪದೇ ಇರಲಿ
ನಾವು ಮನುಷ್ಯರೇ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಹಾಗೆ ಎಂದು ಮರೆಯಬೇಡಿ
ನಿಮ್ಮ ಬದುಕಲ್ಲಿ ನಾವು ಬರುವುದಿಲ್ಲ
ನಮ್ಮ ಬದುಕಲ್ಲಿ ನಿಮಗೇನು ಕೆಲಸ?
ಆ ಭಗವಂತ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಹಾಗೆ ನಮಗೂ ಬಾಳು ಕೊಟ್ಟಿರುವ
ನಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನ ನಮ್ಮ ಕೈಯಲ್ಲಿದೆ

ನಿಮಗೆ ಮಾತ್ರವಲ್ಲ ಕಷ್ಟ ನಮಗೂ ಬರುವುದು
ಮೂಕವಿರುತ್ತೇವೆ ಆದರೆ ಮಾತಾಡಲು ಬರುತ್ತದೆ

ಹಂಗಿಸಬೇಡಿ ನಮ್ಮನು, ಭಾವನೆಗಳು ನಮಗೂ ಇವೆ
ಊಹಿಸಬೇಡಿ ನಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು, ದುಃಖ ನಮ್ಮಲು ಇದೆ

ನಮ್ಮನು ಮಾಡಿದ ಆ ದೇವರಿಗೆ ಬೇಜಾರಿಲ್ಲ,
ಇನ್ನು ಮಾನುಜನಾಗಿ ನಿಮಗೇನು?
ಕೈ ಹಿಡಿದ ಮಾಲೀಕ ಕೈ ಬಿಡಲಾರ
ಇನ್ನು ನಮಗೆ ಬೈಗಳ ಹೇಳುವರು ನೀವು ಯಾರು?
ಹಿಂದೂ, ಮುಸ್ಲಿಂ, ಈಸಾಯಿ ಇದೆಲ್ಲ ನಮಗೆ ಗೋತ್ತಿಲ್ಲ
ಇಂದಿಗೂ, ಎಂದೆಂದಿಗೂ ನಮ್ಮ ಪಾಲಿನ ದೇವರು ಒಬ್ಬನೇ..

Smile

She had a heart winning smile, he never laughed
Her smile could steal many hearts
He made no efforts to even look at her
Neither she saw him nor did he
She knew nothing about him
He had no idea how to talk to her
Yet she made a move
He responded with a blank look in his eyes
She put in efforts to make him smile genuinely
He smiled for the first time after years & she was the reason
There was positive vibes all around him just coz of her
She was a fully charged pack of positivity and happiness
He was an open book which only she could read and understand
She was a carefree girl with a lively heart
He was a lost boy with a broken heart
She's the reason why he stayed happy these days
He was the only one whom she had faith on
She medicated him and his heart unknowingly
He was her Lil baby, she pampered him
He had started to fall for her
Finally, her smile had stolen his heart without his knowledge
She was his princess whom he loved without limits
He was her prince who made her trust love all over again
She healed his broken heart & he had mended hers
It's rightly said, only a broken soul can complete the other shattered soul
They understood each other without words
Love is not about limits & conditions
Its always about trust, faith and unconditional belief

She changed

She was changing slowly bit by bit. Each day she changed.
I could feel the change but never informed her about it. I thought she would realise but she didn't.
May be it is her age to change i thought so didn't bother much gradually she started getting irritated about silly things, she would yell at me for no reason, she would hit me still I thought she would realise it but what i didn't know was the way which she was walking on had no end at all.
   I missed the old her sometimes she would become the old her. It was temporary after some time she would be back to her original self. I missed talking to her for hours. Her work and cellphone took away 'Our' time. I didn't speak anything I kept on convincing my heart that she would realise but she wouldn't. My soul yearned for that love which she showered earlier, my lil heart needed some care but her tone cut away all ropes of hope which had started to penetrate in me.
     'I don't trust you' i always knew she never believed me but the day she actually uttered those 4 words, i felt something in me broke badly this time more than it could heal ever.
     She did shower me with her love and care but she failed to know me, to understand me, to hold me. I grew up with toys around me. Each time when i needed her, she was never there. Now smart phone had taken my place in her life, provided if I had made any place for myself.
      Tears flow down my eyes thinking about the days when I was happy. These days just agony, sorrow fills me. I can't breathe anymore I feel at times. Usually they say mother is her daughter's best friend but here she never tried to be my just friend being a best friend was way too far. It's not like I didn't try to bridge the gap between us but the gap has increased so much over the years that it is next to impossible to bridge it.

भाषा

एक ऐसा शब्द जिसको सुन कर बहुत सारे बोल दिमाग में आ जाते है।
हिंदी, अंग्रेज़ी, उर्दू, पारसी, कन्नड़, मल्यालम, तेलुगु, तमिल, भोजपुरी, गुजराती इत्यादि।
मगर कभी सोचा मातृ भाषा (mother tongue) कितनी एहमियत रखती है एक बच्चे की ज़िन्दगी में?
          ज़रूरी नहीं कि बच्चों को सिर्फ़ अंग्रेज़ी सिखाया जाए। वो भी एक भाषा है मगर सिर्फ़ अंग्रेजी में बोलना सही नहीं ऐसे में बच्चों का अपनी मातृ भाषा से कोई तालुकात ही नहीं रहता। हाँ, ये बात सही है कि पाठशाला में अंग्रेज़ी बोलना अनिवार्य है मगर घर पर उन बच्चों से माँ बाप को अपने मातृ भाषा में ही बोलना चाहिए।
अक्सर माँ बाप ये भूल जाते है कि उनका बच्चा गलत जा रहा है उनको सुधारने के बजाए वो उन्हें और प्रेरित करते है। खुद अंग्रेज़ी में बोलने लगते है उन्हें रोकने के बदले।
     मैंने देखा है बहुत लोगों को अपने छोटे छोटे बच्चों से अंग्रेज़ी में बात करते हुए ये ग़लत नहीं।जब मैं उन बच्चों से किसी और भाषा में बात कारू तो वो चुप हो जाते है ऐसा लगता है जैसे मुँह पर ताला पड़ गया हो। जब अंग्रेज़ी में मैं वही बात दोहराती हूँ तो जवाब मुझे मिला जाता है। मैंने सोचा ये क्या हो गया है आज की पीढ़ी को?
माँ बाप बहुत ईतराते है कि उनका बच्चा अंग्रेज़ी में बोलता है इतनी छोटी उम्र में मगर वो ये बात भूल गए है कि वो खुद उनके बच्चें को बिगाड़ रहे है। मैं ये नहीं कहती कि अंग्रेज़ी में बात करना ग़लत है मगर अंग्रेज़ी के साथ कोई और भाषा का आना भी उतना ही ज़रूरी है जितना अंग्रेज़ी जानना है।
      मानती हूँ आज कल की पीढ़ी बहुत समझदार हो गयी है लेकिन ऐसी समझदारी किस काम की जिसमें सिर्फ़ अंग्रेज़ी ही भरी पड़ी हो?
कोई बुज़र्ग किसी बच्चे से कोई पता पूछे, तो बच्चा अंग्रेज़ी में बोलता है जो उस बुज़र्ग को समझ आता नहीं और बच्चों को कोई और भाषा का पता है नहीं।
अगर हमारे बड़े समझदार होते तो क्या वो हमसे ज़्यादा पढ़े लिखे ना होते?? हमेशा सिर्फ़ अंग्रेज़ी में बात करने वाला इंसान, विदेशी भी भारत आकर टूटा फूटा ही सही मगर हिंदी बोल लेते है तो हम क्यों नहीं??
जब विदेशी यहाँ आकर हमारी भाषा, संस्कृति को अपना सकते है तो हम क्यों नहीं??
        भाषा बहुत सी हैं दुनिया में मगर हमने सिर्फ़ अंग्रेज़ी को चुना, क्यों?
अगर आपका जवाब ये है कि वो आसान है तो एक भाषा बात दीजिये जो मुश्किल हो। सीखनेवाले के लिए कुछ भी आसान या मुश्किल नहीं होता।
कभी कभी मुझे लगता है कि हिंदी या कोई और भाषा का उपयोग उतना क्यों नहीं जितना अंग्रेज़ी का है? जिसका कोई जवाब आज तक मिला नहीं। ऐसा नहीं है कि माँ बाप को कोई और भाषा आती ही नहीं मगर क्यों वो भी बच्चो को सिखाते नहीं हैं अपनी मातृ भाषा।
      भाषा कोई भी हो हर भाषा को उतनी ही इज़्ज़त, सम्मान मिलना चाहिये जितना अंग्रेज़ी को मिलता है।
      बहुत बार बच्चों को देखा मैंने वो अपने झुंड में भी सिर्फ अंग्रेज़ी का प्रयोग करते है। क्या ये सही है?
बच्चा माँ की कोख से ही भाषा सीख कर आता नहीं उसको सिखाना पड़ता है तभी तो वो सीखेगा। अगर माँ बाप ने ठान लिया कि अपने बच्चे को अंग्रेज़ी के साथ अपनी मातृ और राष्ट्र भाषा भी सिखायेंगे तो बच्चों को कम से कम तीन भाषाओं का ज्ञान होगा।
क्यों ना सारे भाषाओं को एक समान किया जाए?

MARRIAGE

One of the purest form of relationship between two individuals which later becomes a relationship between two souls : "MARRIAGE"
           Marriage is a connection between souls once it is decided. Engagement is wherein the souls know each other and slowly get to understand one another. Many a times people tend to think that getting a person married is the best way to bring them on the track of responsibilities but that's when they commit a mistake, a biggest one rather.
Get a person married only when s/he is ready to carry all the responsibilities that comes after marriage on their shoulders with complete caution and not when you feel is right. It's a life time commitment.
    For people, society matters more than their child or family.
A girl should get married by 23 or else she won't conceive is what people say when asked about their opinion on the right age for girls to get married. 
    Most of the time, a girl's dreams are curbed in order to get a good groom suitable for her.
Why always a girl is expected to sacrifice all her dreams for the sake of a relationship?
How easily he said and walked away "Quit your job. I don't want you to work." Did he even think about her? Did he even know that she too had some dreams to fulfill?
    Does the family think about what the girl wants??
Why does the family and the so called relatives poke their nose in the life of a girl? Why do people manipulate her parents and convince them about their point of view?
          A girl is more likely to be rejected coz she is well qualified than the boy which the boy's side is usually called 'overqualified'. When a girl doesn't reject the guy who is well educated why does the boy reject a well qualified girl?
Any explanation doesn't justify this stupidity in our society. Marriage is never a mistake it's either a good experience or a bad one. Some people even blame their spouse for an unsuccessful marriage and some blame their parents. It's ultimately ones own decision at the end.  
      Before marring one needs to decide if s/he is capable of taking up the responsibilities or not, taking a stand for your own self is equally important.
  Marriages are decided in heaven and a formality to tie them in a relation is done on earth they say.
        Forcing a girl to marry at the age 23 will not gain anyone anything coz thats the age when she has a dream of securing her future, will be busy making a career for herself and parents force her to get married that's when they make her quit her job, make her shatter her dreams just for a relationship.
        Marriage is a relationship of souls not bodies,
It's a bond of hearts more than a relation of two bodies
Marriage is a purest form of relation between two individuals more than two families.
Marriage is everything if it's a good one with the right person but it also has the capacity to ruin everything if it's with a wrong person.

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