Marriage

Marriage
Is a connection of two souls and heart rather than two bodies. It's not the end it's the beginning instead. Beginning of everything. A new person, many new relationships and equal authority.
    Searching for a groom, talking about the girl, regarding the girl, asking about the guy, his qualification in short interviewing him for the bride is a ritual in our society. Once the girl steps into her 23rd year, people start talking about her marriage about her future regarding which she shouldn't have any objections. Even today in some places of our country, a girl is married off to a complete stranger without even her consent. To release a pledged house or mortgaged ornaments or to free her parents from the burden of debt. She is married to the son of the person who has lent them money. Has anyone thought what she goes through? When asked they say 'It's the tradition to send girls away at any age no matter what.' or 'लड़की पराया धन होती है'
      Age is just a number and marriage is just a legal name that binds two people without which the world outside calls it illicit and by chance, if she conceives without marrying then the child which is born suffers the most to the core. Inspite of having a name the child is called illicit. Isn't it beautiful how the same child, if born after marriage gets a proper name as well as a good house and before marriage is named as a mistake? Babies are the most beautiful creation of Almighty after woman. She's blessed with the strength to carry another life within her for 9 months and then bring it this world. They're never a mistake no matter when they're born.
      Marriage is just a name that says the couple are legally binded to one another. It's as if without getting married if two people stay together, it's a crime.
Is it that necessary to give a relationship a name so that two people can survive in the society?
Is it that important for a girl to have a mangalsutra around her neck which says she's married and belongs to someone else? Why is that inspite of having a mangalsutra she's being teased or harassed or worst cases even raped?
At times a question lingers in my mind is this all a girl is born? Just to educate her (which in many cases isn't happening) and then marry her off so that she can have kids?
Is this all a girls' life?

Letter to my (future) baby #5

My dear baby,
   Never depend on anyone for anything in your life. Life isn't easy but if you have right people by your side, things will fall into place. Never think that you'll be troubling me by sharing your problmes. Never that's gonna happen.
   Know one thing, learn to respect yourselves first. If you don't respect yourself, no one else will respect you ever. Don't give too much of importance to anyone in your life. There is a limit to give importance, to things and to keep quiet. Baby, it doesn't mean you should be intolerant. It just means know the difference between right amd wrong. Learn to differentiate between truth and false. Never trust easily and never doubt without evidence. Remember, sometimes even evidence may be false.
    I want you to fly high in the sky with immense colors. Not everyone deserves your time and not everyone is worth your importance. Those who are, they'll make place for themselves without you knowing it. Any problem, anytime, mumma is there for you baby..

Love
Mumma

Letter to my (future) baby #4

My dear baby,
     At times i just wanna hug you tight and never let you go. I miss you more than anyone sometimes. Baby, it's not just about giving birth to you it's all about nurturing you, taking care of you, teaching mannerisms etc.
    People may tell you hundreds of things about you, your behavior, your every damn movement but baby remember do what you feel is right. Take suggestions but decide what your heart says. Mumma will always be there with you when you take right decisions and mumma's there when you go wrong to help you come back to the correct track. It's people's work to speak against one another you don't have to bother because we don't stop nor we change paths when stray dogs bark.
      Mumma will always be there when you need me

Love
Mumma

Letter to my (future) baby #3

My dear baby,
   
      Mumma may scold you without reason sometimes i will try my level best not to but still if at all i do, then please forgive me. Mumma is no God baby that she won't make mistakes she will but it's only a mistake not a crime. Mumma may not be there at times when you need her but it doesn't mean mumma doesn't love you. Mumma loves you a lot no matter what. Mumma may lose her patience that time you should be patient with mumma instead of yelling at me just try to calm me down. Mumma is a human just like you. Yes they say mother is God on earth but I want you to know one thing straight that I am not God. I am just a human, your Mom that's all. It doesn't mean you can disrespect me. If you want respect learn to give and then you'll be able to take respect back.
     Without respecting someone don't expect them to respect you at any cost baby. You're free to choose what you want but not at the cost of walking on wrong paths. Mumma will be there but incase she isn't there  with you physically, dont panic mumma is always there with you and for you. Make friends who'll be there with you at your best and worst. Make few friends who'll be there always rather than having thousands of friends on social media make less friends outside the media world who'll promise you their company and togetherness always.
  You'll meet different kinds of people at different stage of life but make sure amongst them you'll have  one or some constants. Make sure to have atleast one person with whom you can share all your secrets. Life is short they say but it a depends on how you take your life, to which edge you're leading it. Baby, I may not be very much experienced with life for i have much more to see whatever I have seen is nothing is permanent neither people nor problems nor life. Everything stays for a particular time period.
    You may be feeling it's easy to lecture but no I am saying all this because I have seen everything. I would like to be your friend first and mother next. May be the seed if friendship which didn't penetrate in my life will become tree in your life.
Don't hesitate to come and share stuffs anytime. Mumm is always there for you no matter what time the clock shows.
Mumma loves you baby...

Love
Mumma

Letter to my (future) baby #2

My dear baby,
  
       Mumma misses you
My parents have taught me a lot about parenting.
They say keeping another life within herself makes her a mother but it's not true. Just keeping doesn't make her a mother. She needs to know whats wrong and what's right; she needs to understand, she should trust her child. She needs to know things about her child. She should know what's wrong what's right for herself and her baby. Without trust no relationship shall survive but it doesn't mean you should trust every other person. Invest your trust in those whom you feel will not break it. First trust God, second yourself. I will carry you for 9 months in my womb, i will nourish you, nurture you but if i don't trust you, everything is useless.
       I have made several compromises in my life for many reasons not because i wanted to but because it was necessary.
Baby, compromise is a part of life. Sometimes you'll have to sacrifice your smile for someone's laugh it may not gain you any monetary benefits but it'll give you a sort of pleasure for sure. Baby, i you'll never be a mistake in my life, you'll be a gift, a treasure. Some may accept you and some won't they accept or not you be the way you are because the society, people will either ways have things to say about you, against you.
      I know you and me have to survive in the same world, same society but that doesn't mean you'll have to give upon your wishes, your dreams. Stay firm, stand for yourself because no one will do it for you. Stick to what you wanna achieve in life. I will be there but as you know things aren't permanent. Expect God, no one is perfect and nothing is permanent. Never consider me to be God because I was sent by him. I am a human just like you are.

Love
Mumma

Letter to my (future) baby #1

My dear baby,
     Mumma misses you a lot. You know i have faced things in my life mostly what i have faced is trust issues but the problem is my parents don't see it. They feel just coz they have provided me with every luxury i shouldn't have any issues. But unfortunately they have never been my friends. They say mother is daughter's best friend but in my case forget best friend my mother never tried to befriend me in the first place. My mom always doubted me for every silly thing. Now a days my words also prick their ears even if I just talk normally, they feel i am yelling at them, i am angry which isn't true. I too have my limits, I too can get irritated, i too have patience. The more patience i show, the more they test it. Is being impatient at times is a crime? It's not that i don't love them but even love has limits.
Having them as my parents, i feel lucky sometimes but sometimes i wish they would understand me.
  The bridge of understanding never built between me and my parents but it won't be the same with you and me.

Love
Mumma

Love ❤

A smile he carried always
She caught his every lie
He looked everywhere except her
She looked deep into his eyes,
A hug was all he needed to shatter
A hug was all she had to give him
Shr hugged him as if he was her baby
His grip tightened around her
She could feel him break down
She just let him shed tears
Coz it was the outburst of his patience and love
All she did was just held him tightly and kept him close
She calmed him
He looked serene after the down pour
"Love is all about being with the person when they need you" he always said
And today she proved it right for him